Is Facebook dying or are we just growing up?

Lately, Facebook has been the bustling place it once used to be. Lately you rarely get any comments on your status even when you're just saying hello or good morning. A lot of people said that Facebook met it's demise when the folks from Myspace starting joining. Others say it went down when Twitter came up on the rise. My guess, we're growing up.

Think about who in your age range is saying that Facebook is dead. Are they your cohorts or are they way younger than you? I'm guessing they are within 2-5 year within your age. Most of us are done with school or decided upon higher education and working on Master's. Others are starting up businesses or finally getting really serious with their lifetime career. Most are getting married, starting families, etc. So, have we outgrown social networking? Social networks have been around now since we were in highschool. Before that, we had AIM. So we've had a solid 15 years or more of interacting with each other online. Are we getting bored? Me thinks so. While we are still very heavily online, surfing the net, etc, we really don't have the time (between reading blogs, social networking, listening to new music, watching vids on youtube), to stop and read your a person's status or become that involved with talking to each other online. Text me what you have to say, send me an e-mail or call me. While this may be a temporary thing, I'm quite sure that the increasing boring state of Facebook or other social networking sites will continue for a while.

So, what do you do? Do you seek out another new and fresh social networking site or do we actually go back to picking up the phone and calling each other?

Think about it. Facebook's demise may be a good thing for all of us.

"Reciprocity Works"

One of GYA's shop owners keeps this as her status on GChat. "Reciprocity Works." Truer words have never been spoken. In a world where we are very independent, much more than the generations before us, it seems this part of life is lost. In the few instances that reciprocity happens, much is rewarded for both parties. It's not really a favor. It is as simple as helping each other out. However, is there some type of limit where we are too expecting reciprocity? Say for instance, should we expect what we've done for others to be done for us right away? No one should ever have a problem with helping anyone out or supporting them, but to much is given much is earned....right? Is there a line where giving too much without anything in return is drawn? Can you give so much of yourself in a non-selfish way and be entitled to expect something back?

Questions that boggle my mind from time to time. My coordinator at work likes to say, "No good deed goes unpunished" as she is often the victim of trying to help and it going terribly awry. As a person who likes to offer, help out, support others so much, it can sometimes feel like I'm getting the short end of the stick. This isn't from each person I've helped however, but there are those same few, who I know, will rarely come through for me. So, what keeps me torn, is do I continue to offer my help and be supportive or do I stop? Pushing the positive out into the universe is supposed to be rewarding, but do I continue to do it for those who just take and take without giving? At some point you want to feel appreciated, but it shouldn't have to come at your expense right?

I'm going to stop it there. The past few weeks for me have been really interesting, especially my dreams. I'm guessing after what has been coming ahead (I have something major happening on Wednesday) passes, then things will be better. Just a lot of doubt and questions that I don't have the answer to lately have been troubling me. It's all apart of the evolution of self. To become a better person and things and reflecting on what you do in life helps out with that. I'm just praying for some type of peace in the near future.

VOTD-Sia

"You've Changed"

Get to know her music, her voice is amazing....and I'm uber envious of her legs, I want them!

Pin-Curling

I forgot to clean off my velcro rollers because I haven't used them in so long, so I'm pin-curling tonight. Will take pics in the morning.

So they're pulling the liquor license...and???

I'm sorry, but I agree with the liquor license being stripped from clubs in St. Louis. I'm sure this is only temporary but I agree wholeheartedly that this may decrease the violence that takes place near the clubs here. People are always BEGGING for the city to do something and now that they've done this, folks are questioning/complaining about it? I understand business is business, but there are options. Pre-game at home and have a designated driver and choose to have a drink that night you go out, because you don't need to drink to have fun.

I'm more in agreement because of the fact that liquor has a tendency to give people "liquid courage."

Example and this actually happened:

My friend had a halloween party at his house. Everyone is having a great time and drinking, of course. It was getting late, folks were leaving, cleaning up, etc, but a group of guys did not want to leave. They were told several times that they needed to leave and they continued to stay in the kitchen and eat off food that was being put away!!!
The owner of the home got upset, went outside and got his GUN.
He came in the kitchen (which is not huge btw) and told the guy to leave again. My friend's girlfriend grabs the gun and they are struggling over it. Swinging it this way and that. It could have gone off at ANY time and they would've both accidentally shot someone. I immediately went outside, away from them. However, I wasn't safe out there for long, because as the guys entered the house, my friend followed, still holding his gun. It was until his brother and friends came from downstairs and saw what was going on that they told him to put it away. It took them running up to him and pushing him against a car to put the gun down. He took the magazine out of it and threw it on the ground. He was still holding it and we all know one bullet was still there. He STILL could've shot someone.

Alcohol makes people do some crazy shit. It puts others in danger when people are not responsible and it's clear that many people aren't responsible when it comes to how much alcohol they can take.

I'm all for them taking the license away. It has nothing to do with race, it has to do with people dying every fucking weekend in this city because of some nonsense. Had they been sober, wouldn't even escalate to the point it does.

My 2 cents.

Dessert Essence Facial Cleansing Pads

I love these!

I bought some the other day. A lil' backstory on my face. I have a really really oily T-zone. I have dermatographism and rosacea (both irritate my skin a lot) and I have mild break-outs (mostly occurring around the time I'm ovulating/high hormones, sorry if that's tmi for you). Anywho, I'm horrible about not cleaning my face at bedtime and these have been helping me remove excess dirt and oil.

Ingredients:witch hazel, tea tree oil, calendula oil, chamomile oil, lavender oil, lemongrass oil, chamomile extract, golden seal extract, hawaiin white ginger, bladderwrack extract*, neem oil

Everything in here is super duper great for your skin. *I've never heard of bladderwrack, I'm going to research it shortly. What you smell mostly is the tea tree oil and the white ginger, and it has a woodsy scent there after, which I'm guessing is more of the witch hazel. While your skin, well, at least my skin doesn't feel *squeaky* clean after using, it removes quite a bit of the days dirt. I'll definitely buy this as long as it's being made.

I will note that these will burn...like rubbing alcohol when you apply it to your skin. It is temporary, but beware. Also, when using these, keep your eyes closed and don't open them up until your skin is dry to prevent your eyes from getting watery/burning.

Art Exhibit: I Am America

If you can, try to make it out to this. The exhibit will be running all next week as well. I will be there talking about my butters and hopefully have some photo prints on display/for sale.

VOTD-Nato Caliph

"HER"

Had to blog this...

Before I even get out the bed to brush my teeth.

Horrible dreams as of late. So random and all over the place...kinda like my life right now lol

Who dreams about a really bad storm coming, and you're at work, on some janky tv that only uses an antenna, trying to find the local news station....switching over the the B side from A, we don't even have A/B cable jacks anymore! Oh and so, trying to find out why the sky is so damn dark, but you and your co-workers, whilst searching for a news station, are making drinks, margaritas to be exact. Maybe not margaritas, I dunno, they were blue. Then finding out that one of your co-workers is knocked up, by a guy you know in real life who came into the dream outta nowhere. Umm....just realized if there girl is pregnant why was she drinking with me. Oh and the girl isn't even my co-worker, in reality, she works on the other side of the building in the student health office and she's transitioning to natural (that part is real life, just to show you how crazy this is). Okay, so all of a sudden, no major storm happens, well, my mind just switched from that scenario to being at home, working from home. I call this kid for his interview, but my nephew is sitting there answering the questions...but I'm on the phone too. Then some motorcyclists were going down the road and my nephew kept getting distracted, I was getting upset. Then I accidentally hang up on who I was on the phone with, to fuss at my nephew, then my ma hears me and starts fussing at me. Then the alarm goes off and I'm awakened from this wretched bafoolery.

Wow. Will analyze this crap later at work when I don't have anything to do.

Hope I'm not uber tired later either. When I dream....for what seems ALL NIGHT LONG, I know for a fact I'm not getting sufficient sleep. I eat dinner as soon as I get home from work, so that was around 6-ish the last time I ate anything yesterday. The last drink I had of anything was tea and that was around 8 or so and I fell asleep a bit after 1am. Okay, so I don't think food was a factor, or the the movie Pollock...least I don't think so.

Edit: Okay, here are the interpretations of everything I could think of from my dreams on dreammoods.com. I'm highlighting the stuff I think is dead on.

Storm: To see a storm in  your dream, signifies some overwhelming struggle, shock, loss or catastrophe in your waking life. The storm also represents unexpressed fears or emotions, such as anger, rage, turmoil, etc. On a more positive note, the storm symbolizes your rising spirituality. It may signal rapid changes ahead for you.

Television: To dream that you are watching television, represents your mind and it's flowing thoughts. The dream reflects how you are receiving, integrating, and expressing your ideas and thoughts. The programs you dream of watching are an objective view of the things that are in your mind. *okay, in my dream, i was just flipping the channels, "searching" for a news station to see about the weather. I needed a prediction for the outcome of the storm. However, I do not remember the images I saw as I flipped through the stations*

Alcohol: To dream that you are consuming alcohol in moderation, denotes contentment and satisfaction in the decisions that you have made. Success is within your grasp. The dream may also be a metaphor for "spirits" and you need spiritual enrichment.

Coworker: To see your coworkers in your dream, highlights aspects of your waking relationship with them, including difficulties/support. It signifies your ambition, struggles and competitive nature. If the coworkers in your dream are not your actual coworkers, then they may pertain to some psychological business that you need to work on. Work-related dreams can also be related to stress at work.

Friends: To see friends in your dream, signify aspects of your personality that you have rejected, but are ready to incorporate and acknowledge. The relationships you have with those around you are important in learning about yourself. Alternatively, dreaming about a friend, indicates positive news. *someone I know is gonna get pregnant or is newly pregnant and hasn't told anyone yet! I just know it!*

I did a search for pregnant/pregnancy and none of the scenarios explained are what was in my dream. There was, me giving birth, or watching someone else giving birth or me being pregnant, but not someone else. So, I'm not sure what this means other than someone I know must be pregnant.

Home: To see your home in your dream, signifies security, basic needs, and values. You may be feeling at "home" or settled at your new job or environment. Alternatively, the dream represents your basic needs and priorities.

Work: To dream that you are at work, indicates that you experiencing some anxiety about a current project or task. *i don't have any major projects here at my job or tasks, nothing out of the norm. my job is pretty cut and dry and monotonous* The dream may also be telling you that you need to get "back to work." Perhaps you have been slacking off and need to pick up the pace. *i think this is more relatable to my business and not my full-time gig* Alternatively, the dream reflects your success.

Job: To dream about your current job, suggests that you need to work harder or be more effective at work. There must be something or some task that must be done at once. *again i think this refers to my business and not my full-time job. and if this is what it can possibly mean, then I need to execute what I've been dwelling over and that's making a separate online shop from Etsy. It's time* Or the dream may mean that you are overworked or preoccupied with work. You need to make time for leisure and relaxation.

Nephew: To dream of your nephews, represents some aspect of yourself that you need to acknowledge or recognize within yourself. *hmmm being easily distracted??? i dunno, this kinda made me chuckle, because thinking of how my 9yr old nephew acts right now is umm...not ideal for my age lol*

Motorcycle: To see or ride a motorcycle in your dream, symbolizes your desire for freedom *an internalized YAAASSSSSSS* and need for adventure. *i need to move. so badly. i do not have the means to do it right now but i need to get away!* You may be trying to escape from a situation or some other responsibility in your waking life. Alternatively, a motorcycle is symbolic of raw sexuality *O_o* Perhaps you're moving too fast. *well we know for sure this does not apply to me lol*

Telephone: To see or hear a telephone in your dream, signifies a message from your unconscious or some sort of telepathic communication *O_o* You  may be forced to confront issues which you have been avoiding. Alternatively, the telephone represents your communication and relationship with others.

Yelling: To dream that you or someone is yelling, represents repressed anger that needs to be expressed. If you are yelling and no one hears, then it suggests that you are being overlooked in some waking situation. You feel that your voice does not matter or your opinion doesn't count.

Taking all these into consideration, I feel like this was a decent interpretation. Lately I've been having a lot of trouble even remembering my dreams, which is why I wanted to log this one as soon as I woke up from it. I need to do that more often. Damn, I feel like Jason Borne. Anywho, I know for fact I need to get cracking on the things I wanted to do with my business last month, but never got around to. So, maybe that will solve at least one of my problems.

Pollock

Watched the movie tonight and it was good. Great acting. A must-see.

Also had a good laugh over the name, Natoddsha.

I'm feeling a bit better. :)

I'm confused

About a lot of things. Good grief, don't people know that I constantly run things over and over in my mind trying to figure things out? Seriously. I will think about something over and over until a pretty decent distraction causes me to stop. Obsessing? Yes. I'm trying to get a handle on it. I have this anxiety the most when there's a lot going on. One person in particular is about ready to make me go clean the fuck off on them. I know I said I wouldn't curse on this blog, so I'm sorry for that, but I really needed to get that out.

My cough is still here. I've had this cough for 30 days.
Biz is still in turtle mode. Until things pick up, lots of products will be out of stock for a while.
I'm very moody. I'm trying to work it out without hurting anyone's feelings. That is the last thing I want to do. Some folks are just testing me.


Just needed to vent for a bit, since I don't have anyone to talk to. *shrug*

Neo Ned

Awesome movie. Loved it lots. Made me teary and sad and happy. Gotta love a movie that pulls emotion outta you. I peeped it on Netflix. If you don't have that rent it. It's a must-see.

Never knew of the movie until I was trolling through a blog and saw it posted by the blog owner as a recommended title. Gotta love folks who know good stuff.

That is all.

VOTD-Marvin Sapp

"The Best In Me"

THIS.

Untitled

When I die
Take me high into the sky
Dump me over the biggest cloud
And watch me fly.

The Sabbatical

I'm only a few days into my social network sabbatical and I've already been uber inspired by what I found recently. A blog I follow on tumblr, istillshootfilm, posted a link to famed photographer Elliot Erwitt's site. I went and found another link to Magnum Photos. It was like finding a gold mine. I've spent majority of my day today browsing through the portfolios of the photographers who are associates, founders, nominees and full members of Magnum Photos. I was so amazed.

I encourage you to visit the site and take a look for yourself. Each portfolio consists of 50 images from each photographer and most have a personal quote about photography. Photography is still very new to me. I don't consider myself a photographer, but picking up the hobby has been the best thing for me. I plan on expanding my film camera collection soon in the near future before finding an old school dslr to work with.   I feel like, working my way up the ranks is something I need to do, instead of diving head first into the very technical aspects of photography. As of now, I do it for fun and I have an ever growing bag full of film that needs to get developed; the woes of being broke you could say. Hopefully, within the next week, I'll be able to share with you all the photos I've taken over the past two months. The pictures will be posted on my other blog, The Eye Sight, which consists solely of Holga toy camera pictures.

The sabbatical was needed. I do this about once a year and I should do it more often. The bulk of what we do on the internet as far as social networking sites go, is visiting the site every 5 minutes to look at new status updates, posts, etc. I get a lot more done, I am a lot more focused and I have time to be inspired because I'm not worried about who said what on Twitter and Facebook. A true media fast would test me, a week without cell, internet, tv...wow, not sure if that's one I could pull, but it would be a cool test for the future. I'm getting back into reading...books! haha. How many of us read blogs more than books? Me. *raises both hands* It's sad. Another reason for the sabbatical, while I follow some pretty worthy blogs to read, it's still not the same thing. Blogs are intrusive with pictures. For some reason, we've led ourselves to believe that we can make through 3 paragraphs of something without a picture referencing to what the person is talking about. The internet makes us so lazy.

That about sums some things up. I shall now return to viewing these amazing portfolios.

Edit: I guess you're wondering what triggered the sabbatical....well, it was a combo of people being extremely shallow, Oscar Grant, selfishness, lack of originality (on my behalf, I'm losing my creativity), laziness (once again, me), and the cringing I do when I see those awful trending topics on twitter.

6/25

Today is the birthdate of the most awesomest person I know! My sister!

I couldn't have asked for a better sister. She is the best! I thank God for her so much it's crazy! Anytime I've ever needed anything, without a doubt she's there for me to help or offer advice. She is a wonderful sister, daughter, mother and wife. I love her so much!

In case you're wondering, yes, I sent her a message at 7am (her time in Vegas on vacation) to tell her happy birthday and she was already up and getting her day started. Since I can't hang with her on her birthday today (stuck in St. Louis womp), we're gonna go to the movies and hang out one day next week before we head out of town to Chicago! I can't wait!

Happy Father's Day!

Happy Father's Day to all the dad's out there! Enjoy your day!

Having the cooties blooooows

So I've been sick for the past week. The last time I was sick it was pretty bad and I stayed home from work for three days. That would've been the case this time around, luckily for me, I was able to work from home.

I expect to be pretty close to 100% by the weekend. Right now I've been sleeping a lot and nibbling on stuff here and there. I was pretty dehydrated earlier this week and that was quickly resolved with some Gatorade. I'm looking forward to feeling like myself again, because this head cold and it's been a pretty severe head cold had me feeling like someone else invaded my body. Very uncomfy. I went to work today, felt like crap, they told me to go home, and my ma told me to call the doc.

I get home and I fall asleep. Best sleep EVAR. The doc office finally calls back and they want me to come in, my doc's office is 30 mins away. Let's just say, me just waking up and doing an activity like driving right away is a nobuenosituation. I prayed before I pulled off. Real Talk.

I didn't even feel like I was really steering the car. I'm so serious. That is how out of it I've been with this cold.

I don't see the doc, I see the nurse practitioner and she prescribed me prednizone because she said I had some inflammation in my left ear, but my lungs were clear................ I consulted with my personal nurse, my sister, and she told me to hold off on getting that script filled. Right. Everyone asked, "where dey do dat at?" when I said, "I gotta take prednizone." Unheard of for a cold.

Just glad this is all happening now. I work one more full week before I get a week and a day off for vacation!! I'll be back in Chicago with my Holga and my rinky dink Samsung digicam. I'm leaning towards shooting film only in Chicago, we'll see.

Baby steps though. Hopefully Friday I'll be feeling good enough to grab some din din with friends, and then get to whipping up some butters (I'm thoroughly behind on this) and handling some bizness. I need to add pics to my flickr and some sites that I've neglected....

In other news, I imagine more and more everyday that I'm living in Cali. Walking the beach, eating good food and hanging with good folks. If I build up the want enough, it will be. When my funds are right, it will be a GO.

VOTD-Tef Poe

"Showstealers"

The vid is finally out. It should spread through the internet like a forest fire.

Sidebar-I can see me in this vid like 5 times. I had no idea they were including footage from the RFT Musicfest in the vid. It's blurry, but yes, I'm in there. :)

Go here to leave a comment on the TSS article for the vid and see me in the middle of the main pic...uber blurred out lol


Tef Poe - "Show Stealers" from Joseph Lombardi on Vimeo.